The 21st Century changed our life in many ways, and one with the biggest impact was the arrival of social networks. Somehow social networks managed to intrude in our relationships.
While there is an ongoing debate, whether we should or shouldn’t date online, it seems that dating sites finally have managed to escape the stigma that had been haunting them for more than ten years. The main accusations against online dating were formulated in two simple phrases:
1. It’s only for losers
2. It won’t lead to anything
Now let’s look at those ‘statements’ to see whether they are true or not. Does using dating sites make you a loser? Well, in case if you lack self confidence and you are using dating sites to hide your true identity behind fake profiles, you are surely a loser. But are the dating sites to blame?
Dating sites proved to be a perfect choice for those who are too busy and have no time to visits clubs and bars for socializing and finding a potential partner. Besides, dating sides provide you with useful information. If in real life you pick up your potential partners only by their appearance, profiles on dating sites offer you information on whether you have common interests or not.
And if you want your chatting to turn out fruitful, your profile must be filled with truthful details about you. Of course we want to choose and not to be chosen, but how you’re going to start a real relationship with someone with whom you haven’t been completely sincere?
As for the thoughts that dating ladies online won’t lead to anything – once again, everything depends on you. You see, dating sites tend to seduce us with their seemingly wide range of possibilities. Or maybe it is just a problem of a weak faith?
We create accounts on dating site because of one simple reason – to find a perfect couple. It is either because we want to find someone abroad or, as mentioned above, because of the lack of time.
But soon after signing up we are spoiled with multitude of women to choose from. And instead of sticking with one girl which perfectly fits in your understanding of relationships, we start chatting with lots of girls at once.
First we try to justify our actions with the possibility of improving our flirting skills. Then we think that we must spent a little more time, as we finally have the chance to find the perfect girl. Then each girl we chat with seems not as perfect as we want. Moreover, we are spoiled by the complete absence of the fear of rejection.
And quite soon we find ourselves addicted to those sites. We forget to go on dates, instead we constantly enlarging the number of girls we correspond with. Of course it’s going nowhere, but are the sites to blame?
We shouldn’t forget that our main goal was to find partner. Those who remember it are already in happy relationships. Chat with girl that you consider your perfect one. If everything goes great – arrange a real date. Your action is the only way that determines whether dating sites are serving their initial goal or not.