How Breakup Impacts our Self-concept and How to Deal with It

How Breakup Impacts our Self-concept and How to Deal with It

Bad situations are the inherent part of our lives, unfortunately. Since we talk about relationships here, let’s talk about the worst thing that can happen and happens almost to everyone – a breakup. It always sucks, even if there is a situation when two people rather do harm to each other than feel happy together. However, in most cases it is all different.

We all know the term ‘better half’. Indeed, being in relationship with love of our lives makes us feel complete. We open new horizons, learn the niceties of communications, experience new pleasant emotions and senses. New people introduce us new hobbies, cultures, friends, and perspectives. Scientists claimed that couples who complete each other that way and encourage each other’s of self-expansion have more chances to long-lasting relationships.

For some of us, romantic feelings and intimacy are also a big opportunity to increase our self-appraisal. You will definitely agree that feeling of being mutually loved makes us shine from the inside, we feel more confident. We define ourselves a part of pair and our personalities grow, when we fall in love with a significant other. Finally, we just have more fun and life seems meaningful.
Unfortunately, not all of us can put up with the fact we are no longer the whole after a breakup. Moreover, this situation is even more painful after we found a significant other. We start asking ourselves: ‘Who am I without my better half?’ This sort of thoughts is quite common after happy relationships’ end. But in the most tragic cases people refuse living without a person who made them so happy due to the loss of identity. Such stories also remind cases when high-qualified doctors lose their jobs because of unexpected reasons or when athletes can’t devote themselves to their favorite sport.

The way out
Being depressed after a breakup is normal, especially when you lost someone exceptional in your life. However, it never worth diving deep in misery and heart-breaking atmosphere. It may be healing for some time, but mourning a relationship should not last long. The main thing you should do is restoring your self-concept. We all are personalities and we don’t need anyone to make our lives bright and amazing. Sounds selfish? Absolutely no. You are totally free to live as you want, there’s no boundaries between you and your happiness except those thoughts in your head.

Don’t abandon your hobbies. The biggest mistake people make after a breakup is ignoring their lifestyle and hobbies they discovered in relationships. Do you like it? Does it make you forget about everything bad? Does it really broadens your mind-set? So why on earth do you have to forget about things that bring you joy in such tough moment? Carry on; devote yourself to pleasant occupations that distract your mind from everything negative. No one allowed you to be unhappy.

Travel. Discovering new cultures and meeting new people heals every broken heart. The extreme changes of your surroundings will get you out of the comfort zone and will stimulate positive emotions after your journey. And going abroad is by far not the single option. Discover new white spots on your local or national map. Traveling increases your chances to meet singles for dating.

Keep closer to your friends. The most available and easiest way of distraction from breakup is communication. You know that the closest people in your life are not only those with whom you have intimate relationships. Just hang out, share your thoughts and feelings, and gather some useful advice and motivation. Do you remember that song of The Beatles? ‘Are you sad because you're on your own? – No, I get by with a little help of my friends’, is sang there. So, chin up!

1 comment

  1. Dealing with breakup can be such a big deal, but these posts make it look easily possibe. I will try these tips